Wisdom Of The Rooms - 2020

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November 30

Quote of the Week

"If you’re having trouble making a decision, maybe you shouldn’t."

When I got sober, I suddenly found that I had a lot more options and choices in my life. Now that I wasn’t drinking all the time, I could decide to do many other things: go to meetings or fellowship, fix up the house, visit family and friends again. Soon I decided that I needed to make big changes: move to a new city, change relationships and careers, and more. And that’s when my sponsor suggested that I don’t make any big changes during the first year of recovery.

While this didn’t make any sense to me, he explained that while I may not be the person I was while drinking, I was still not the person I would yet become. What I needed to do was work the Steps, get some clarity, and then begin making changes and decisions slowly and with God’s help. He suggested I pray over things first and wait to see what God’s will might be for me. This advice has served me well over the years.

These days, I’ve learned that I no longer have to impulsively act on what I think I want to do. In fact, I’ve found that if I’m having trouble making a decision, then that means I need to pray over it more until I get a stronger sense of direction. I’ve also learned to not fear making a mistake, because I know that decisions aren’t forever. Today, I struggle less over making decisions and know that I’m not alone. God is my partner in life today, and as long as I am willing to go to Him for advice and follow the direction I receive, things turn out for the best.