Wisdom Of The Rooms - 2020

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August 10

Quote of the Week

"The three most dangerous words for an alcoholic: ‘I’ve been thinking.’"

It took me a long time to learn that my head isn’t my friend. For years in the program, I heard it was best to run my thinking by others, but I secretly never believed it. My head would always convince me it had a better idea, and time and time again I followed its advice. It almost always turned out badly because what I always forgot was that my thinking was usually centered on me.

After many more bottoms, in many different areas, I finally became willing to check in more often with others. It was hard at first because I was sure I wouldn’t like what I heard, or they wouldn’t let me have my way, but once again contrary action saved the day. After listening to and actually following other’s suggestions, things turned out better, and my life began to get better, too.

What’s so interesting is that today, even with years of experience of checking in with others, my head still tries to convince me to follow its advice. The voice in my head is subtle, and, like alcoholism, it can be cunning, baffling, and powerful. I know better than to listen to it (most of the time), and I will forever be grateful for my sober experience and the loving support and direction I get from my friends in the fellowship. Today, though, those three words, “I’ve been thinking,” still remain dangerous.