When one alcoholic/addict shares with another alcoholic/addict

[MajestyJo]

What I said never changed anybody; what they understood did.

--Paul. P.

How often have we given our all to change somebody else? How frantically have we tried to force a loved one to see the light? How hopelessly have we watched a destructive pattern - perhaps a pattern we know well from personal experience - bring terrible pain to someone who is dear to us?

All of us have.

We would do anything to save the people we love. In our desperation, we imagine that if we say just the right words in just the right way, our loved ones will understand.

If change happens, we think our efforts have succeeded.

If change doesn't happen, we think our efforts have failed. But neither is true. Even our best efforts don't have the power to change someone else. Nor do we have that responsibility. People are only persuaded by what they understand. And they, as we, can understand a deeper truth only when it is their time to grow toward deeper understanding. Not before.

Today, I will focus on changing myself and entrust those I love to the Higher Power who loves them even more than I do.

You are reading from the book:

Days of Healing, Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty

Such a good reminder, I am not the Power. My God works through me, and hopefully what I say helps others. I just pass on to others what was given to me. This is from my site "The Five As."

The heart below reminds me of how I felt when I came into recovery. I felt very fragmented and the program helped me to become whole. The fellowships loved me until I could love myself.

Nothing changes, if nothing changes. I try to embrace change today, although lately, my feet have been lagging.