Expectations

[MajestyJo]

Because you're not what I would have you be, I blind myself to who, in truth, you are.


—Madeleine L'Engle

It was the quote that drew me to the reading. I realized early in recovery that you can't project expectation, especially onto someone who is not mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually capable of meeting them.

I would put such high expectations in some areas of my life and expect others to live up to my standards. Even when I lowered them, to some people they seemed unattainable. If I didn't live up to them myself, it was just another reason to beat myself up.

As it says in the Big Book: The higher my acceptance and the lower my expectations, I never had it so good.