No one would ever ask to be the way we are or to have this problem, and those of us who have it we aren't even really sure why we have it. When things start to become difficult for us from having this problem is when we all start to look for answers. Usually the first thing we want to know is why us, why do we have it. None of us for sure really knows why we have, but we do know none of us would have ever chosen to have this problem, it's just the one we got, and after all of the searching we do, none of us will really ever come up with an answer that made any more sense than this one does. From being in recovery we learn that it's more important for us to know how to live with having this problem, then why we have it. There's never any solution to this problem to be found by knowing why we have it, it's only by knowing what we can do about having it, can we begin to find a solution, and way to live with it, and then be able to accept that we do have it, and that it's okay that we do.