None of us ever set out looking to go through some kind of psychic change or to find a way to have a spiritual awakening as the way to make our life better, we all were looking for something else. These two things have been found to be the necessary ingredients we all need to have that better life. By following the program of recovery we'll be given those two things. It was discovered early on that many don't find that these two things appeal to them, and then it was realized forcing these things to happen never works. We had to be willing to allow for these things to happen to us. If there was some easier, softer way that works we all would have taken it and turns out that some of us are making this harder than it has to be, once we become willing, it's really pretty easy.