Reflections for Every Day - December

[yukonm]

December 1

Today's Thought:

No one deserves to be abused physically or mentally by any one! The hardest part for me to forgive was all the words spoken in his fits of rage. He still tries to come into my life but I will not allow this to happen.

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Lorin

[yukonm]

December 2

Today's Thought:

For me, a sponsor was, and is, a good thing. I was lucky enough to get a good sponsor with the first one I picked. The key word, of course, is "good." Sometimes you need to try out a few before you find a good one.

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Marty

[yukonm]

December 3

Today's Thought:

God will put the people or person in my path when its time to make amends to them. Which means to me, I do not have to seek out anyone I apologize too. Thank goodness because there are people in my past I do not want to confront.

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Deb

[yukonm]

December 4

Today's Thought:

I would often find myself sitting in a bar half drunk wondering what the hell happened. The last decision I recalled making was to go straight home without drinking. I remembered walking into the bar, but I didn't remember deciding to do that. It was as though my brain had short-circuited (the "mental blank spot" AA's speak of) and my legs had developed a mind of their own, walking me into the bar.

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Larry

[yukonm]

December 5

Today's Thought:

She supplies him with all the alcohol he can handle - I worry still for his safety but I have to remember it's not my concern and he's on his own now to deal with the circumstances. I do know I did the right thing for myself.

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Jill

[yukonm]

December 6

Today's Thought:

I have seen people become sponsors and turn into something I consider very unattractive, thinking that the title gives them free rein to take over and control a sponsee's every move and thought. , I did get a sponsor that I was able to develop some sort of relationship with. She was there to help me understanding this stuff when I approached her.

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Bette

[yukonm]

December 7

Today's Thought:

My husband and I have found that the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts work very well in our relationship. We have never had a fight. That does not mean we agree on everything, but we both know that it is perfectly normal for each of us to have opinions and ideas that are different from one another.

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Elise

[yukonm]

December 8

Today's Thought:

Ask your wife and children if you need to quit. Ask your Mother or Father, or anyone else that loves you. You might be surprised how they view you and your 'success.'

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Ming

[yukonm]

December 9

Today's Thought:

This means that each day I have work to do. I can't declare myself cured and then go and live like I use to. I have decisions to make on a daily basis that sometimes I don't like, and I don't want to make them. But the fact remains that I have to.

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Stanette

[yukonm]

December 10

Today's Thought:

One night, it all changed. I just figuratively threw up my hands, thinking there has to more to this life than what I had at the time, and started my fourth step. I called my sponsor, and he said, "so you finally learned step three."

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Stanette

[yukonm]

December 11

Today's Thought:

I finally got tired of being terrorized by his fits of rage and acts of destruction and filed for divorce. I am not as scared at the idea of being able to manage financially on my own as I am by his tantrums and verbal abuse. And the first step was going to Al-Anon regularly!

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Dancer

[lcount]

Dancer, (so cute, reminds me of the reindeer), Thank you for your post. Reminds me of my brothers. Both were terribly abusive to my mom and me at Thanksgiving, and she puts up with it and condones their behavior. I am not going to my mom's for Christmas, because I do not deserve to be abused any more. Thank you for your post. It helped me hold fast to my decision. You are in my prayers!

[yukonm]

December 12

Today's Thought:

My 17-year-old son started using and I realized I was setting the same example for him that was set before me growing up in an alcoholic home. I wanted to help my boy. Little did I know that I had to help ME first.

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Deb

[yukonm]

December 13

Today's Thought:

There are a lot of people who will say that there isn't anything in the Big Book that says you have to have a sponsor. This is true. Sponsorship isn't actually part of the program of Alcoholics Anonymous, (other than the need to work with others) it's part of the fellowship. I believe a sponsor is a pretty necessary part of getting sober.

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Elise

[yukonm]

December 14

Today's Thought:

The "x" factor was there before I took my first drink! What manifests in me as as alcoholic is that I become someone else, I lie to impress others, I spend money I don't have and do awful things that I would never do without drinking.

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Sam